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Read Feel It All, a groundbreaking new book on sexuality that dispels the negative cultural attitudes about sex that leave too many feeling inadequate, and offers an expansive, attachment-based framework to free us and develop bolder, more satisfying relationships with our sexual selves.

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When it comes to sex, most people feel insecure. But it’s not because we’re deficient; it’s because we’ve been under-resourced, miseducated, and traumatized.

Certified sex therapist Casey Tanner argues that our sex lives are a microcosm of every untruth we’ve internalized about gender, sex, relationships, our bodies, and ourselves. Most of us were taught that healthy sexuality is only for a certain kind of person, in a certain kind of relationship, with a certain kind of body. As a result, the way we’ve learned how to define “good sex” is reflective of how good, worthy, and loveable we see ourselves.

‍Feel It All is a comprehensive guide to help everyone uncover their personal misconceptions about sexuality and relationships. Casey helps you recognize and assess your core beliefs surrounding relationships, sexuality, gender, and more; identify past trauma; find pathways to healing that work for you; and redefine sex based on knowledge and possibilities, rather than potential consequences.

Comprehensive yet accessible, informative, warm, and nonjudgmental, Feel It All provides a pathway toward personal healing, stronger relationships, and deeper intimacy.

Available now, read Feel It All from HarperCollins.

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"I am blown away by 'Feel It All.' Seamlessly blending her journey with research and clinical wisdom, Casey Tanner earns her place as a trustworthy guide. Savor her words as you cultivate the secure sexuality you have always deserved. I will be recommending 'Feel It All' to clients and students for years to come."

Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, faculty at Northwestern University, bestselling author of "Love Every Day" and host of the "Reimagining Lovepodcast"

"'Feel It All’ is the answer you’ve been searching for! What do we do if we’ve never been shown that feeling is okay, let alone glorious? How can we open up if we’re confused or frightened by our feelings? Happily, the kind, wise, and brilliant Casey Tanner guides us step-by-step through our barriers to letting go. A must-read!”

Jeffrey Marsh, Bestselling Author, "Take Your Own Advice"

“A deeply vulnerable, nuanced, and heartfelt book, perfect for anyone who feels ‘broken’ when it comes to sex. Spoiler alert: Casey will show you that you're not. And along the way, you'll develop deeper compassion for yourself, a richer experience of your sexuality, and excitement and curiosity about feeling even more.”

Vanessa Marin, Bestselling Author, "Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life"

“There are few relationships more important than the one we have with our sex and sexuality. Casey Tanner’s 'Feel It All' is a bold, visionary approach to understanding just how expansive and fulfilling that relationship can be."

Rachel Cargle, Author, "A Renaissance of Our Own"

“This book is not just the work of a sex therapist, but of someone who has spent decades in therapy wrestling with and liberating their sexuality."

Dalychia, Co-Founder, Afrosexology

“With a masterful blend of research, personal anecdotes, and practical advice, 'Feel It All' addresses the profound effects that cultural messaging and attachment wounds have on sexuality. Casey Tanner’s work guides readers through the murky territories of intimacy and desire in a helpful and compelling way.”

Lori A. Brotto, PhD, Professor, University of British Columbia, and Canada Research Chair in Women’s Sexual Health

“Very few of us have been given the sex education or tools we need to have a secure relationship with sexuality, and Casey Tanner fills in these gaps.”

Laurie Mintz, Author, "A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex" and "Becoming Cliterate"

“Casey Tanner shows us how all of us—ALL OF US!—can build a loving, secure relationship with our own sexuality."

Emily Nagoski, Ph.D., New York Times Bestselling Author, "Come As You Are" and "Come Together"

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Feel It All

Read Feel It All and see why critics are "blown away.” “Seamlessly blending her journey with research and clinical wisdom, Casey Tanner earns her place as a trustworthy guide. Savor her words as you cultivate the secure sexuality you have always deserved." - Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, faculty at Northwestern University, bestselling author of Love Every Day and host of the Reimagining Lovepodcast.

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